For 99.9 percent of the world, it seems like New Year’s resolutions come and go by the time your out-of-office message from the holidays turns off. And for those living with chronic illness, which is nothing if unpredictable, New Year’s resolutions can be particularly fraught. In a recent #CreakyChats Twitter chat, the community vibe on making resolutions was that it often feels like you’re setting yourself up for failure.

As @TerezHumphrey put it, “I never make resolutions. Life is hard enough living with a chronic disease/illness like #rheum. One day at a time. Enjoy all [good] things that life has to offer, like more #grandbabies.” Jennifer, who tweets under the handle @UnxpctdAdvocate agreed: “I find the practice ineffectual and don’t rely on one day to make changes. Instead I usually hope for better things to come and make concrete plans for things I want to do like visit a friend, visit a new city, begin attending my meditation center again.”

Another option: Pick an uplifting saying that speaks to you, and try to remember it when you’re going through a tough time. Here are a few we found on Instagram that felt particularly on point.

If You Need a Reminder to Be Gentle

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If You’ve Been Ruminating on the Past

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If You Often Feel Guilty

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If You Feel Crummy But Keep on Going

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If You Need a Push to Think Positively

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If You Need a Reminder of How Strong You Are

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If You Need Permission to Take a Break

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If You Need a Warm Hug

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If You Need to See the Big Picture

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If You Need Motivation to Stick With It


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If You Apologize a Tad Too Much

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If You Need a Reminder to Surround Yourself with Good People

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If You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

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If You Need to Remind Others What a Fighter You Are

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If You Need to Make a Resolution List No Matter What

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Many of the patients and bloggers and meme creators we interview (see this interview with Cat King, or this one with Melanie Mourt) say that finding online communities, especially on social media sites like Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook, have been game-changing for them. We encourage you to check out  the accounts credited here for ongoing support and community online.

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