Dear Ms. Meniscus:

I’m an assertive person with psoriasis. When I’m wearing business attire, people can’t tell I have it. However, I think it’s my job to tell people I have it within the first two minutes of meeting them. My wife says I’m unnecessarily creating negatives that will affect my job and my friendships. I agree but I think it’s my responsibility to educate people about this disease, including the fact that its not contagious and that it’s controllable. I just started a new medication that is working very well. I want people to know. Do you agree with me or my wife?

Red, but not red-faced.


businessman-1297538_1280Dear Red:

Until people started talking openly about breast cancer, or prostate cancer, or opioid abuse, we ignored it, were ashamed of it, and often didn’t get proper treatment because we didn’t know what questions to ask. So I applaud you for speaking out. I remember when my son finally learned to poop in a toilet, I was so proud and relieved that I didn’t have to make midnight pampers runs to the CVS that I told everyone. Soon he started telling everyone, too. Soon everyone stopped talking to us. The lesson in my son’s poop is that a little goes a long way in polite conversation. When we first meet people it’s acceptable to use the word “I”. But smart people quickly switch from “I” to a question about the other person. Make sure you aren’t boring them with your medical woes or you’ll be the one who’s red-faced.