Dear Susan,

Your daughter-in-law may not know she’s hurting your feelings.  Perhaps her upbringing didn’t include thank you cards — or perhaps she thinks a text message thank you suffices (personal aside:  *shudder).

Your daughter-in-law may not know she’s hurting your feelings.  Perhaps her upbringing didn’t include thank you cards.

Lead by example.  When your son and daughter-in-law do something nice for you — anything in the near future — mail them a nice thank you card just for that action.  Do this again and again.  Your daughter-in-law may think it’s fun and cotton on.

— M