My daughter is five. When should I tell her I have RA?

Too Soon?

Dear Too Soon,

Your daughter might only be five, but although you might try to mask it, she will notice your discomfort when you have flare-ups. You do not have to go into great, scientific detail with her regarding RA, but you can tell her that Mommy has pain in her joints – you may have to explain to her what exactly joints are – and that you occasionally have bad days as a result.  You can then tell her that she does not have to worry, and that you are managing it.

Children can are sometimes smarter and more intuitive that we give them credit. Either way, you should never lie to her about your condition if she asks. Just comfort her, and you might be amazed just how much she will comfort and support you on your bad days.


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