Dear Rob,

Communicate how you feel to her.  There is nothing wrong with telling her how you care for her deeply and wish to develop your relationship further.

Don’t be possessive — that will only push her away. Allow her the freedom and support she needs to make any decisions.

But if you focus on how much you care for her, and refrain from pressuring her one way or the other, chances are she’ll recognize the special relationship she has with you and agree.

— M