Stuck in a rut
Written on October 9, 2012 by Dr. Laurie
Sandy, one of my most committed clients, came in and said something startling the other day.
"I'm going to let my gym membership go," she announced.
"What's that about?" I was taken aback. Sandy goes to her exercise classes religiously and they have helped her manage her RA and her moods.
"Here's the deal," she responded. "I'm a little stuck. I'm doing ok- but I know I could be better. If I don't change this routine, I won't improve – I'll just stay at the same level."
Sandy's insight was smart – and brave. She was willing to let go of something that was working in order to reach for more.
I've been noticing this pattern in several of my clients lately.
They each see a habit or routine that is serving them- but realize if they want to expand their well being, they have to let it go and begin something new.
Jill made a decision to stop taking classes after work. She enjoys them, and the learning helps her be engaged with her profession, but she decided to use her time and money in a new way. She isn't sure yet what that will be, so she is giving herself space to dream.
Sam is looking for a new doctor. He isn't unhappy with his current one, but the pattern of medication and conversation has been the same for a few years. He thinks a different perspective may help him.
These clients are willing to take a risk. They are examining parts of their lives that are working, and realize they could be better. Most often we start to change when things break down, when pain or discomfort pushes us out of a rut.
Being willing to lose something that is working because you want more is a creative level of growth. Letting go makes some space for unexpected and enlivening new possibilities.
What does that stir in your thoughts about your life? Where might you open yourself to something else – even though what you have is ok? How might letting go bring you some better options?
As always, let me know what happens!