Dear Underwhelmed,

Not at all — what are special occasions for if not a perfect excuse to pamper ourselves. And the romance!

Giving your mate the benefit of the doubt, inquire into any stress or problems he may be experiencing in his life. Perhaps your partner is just off his game.

If not, explain to him the importance of the celebration to you. Be ready, though — if he blows you and your feelings off, cut your losses at a year and move on.